The eyes are the windows to the soul.
In class sometimes I have to put on a stern face to show my students that I mean business. The time for fooling around (or "foola, foola", as I often call it) has come to an end and we need to focus. But inevitably my efforts are shot down when the little ones look into my eyes. They can tell I want to be silly too. Darn those windows to the soul.
I have tried to keep the shades drawn but to no avail. I've even tried to experiment with it. Just this past Friday I was giving 'the look' to our energetic student Jeremy and trying hard to remain serious. As I held my outward facial expression I inwardly altered my tone. The minute I let down my guard he looked at me and said "You are funny". So much for that!
In an instant he could tell. Just from my eyes.
In this I also knew that he knew how much I treasured him. I knew that he knew I thought he was funny too and that I get a kick out of his antics, even as he tries my patience. He is just too adorable.
It's nice to see that look in another persons eyes. The acceptance. The love. The knowledge that someone gets a kick out of you, treasures you, wants to be around you.
There are two old photographs of my mom and I that express this. Mom beaming at me...
And me smiling at her in adoration.
I love these photos for this reason. All through my life I have noticed when people look at one another with this feeling of love. I've seen it on Lauren's face when she is working with a student. I have caught my dad gazing at my mom (quite often) with this expression on his face, I have seen it in the faces of my friends and lovers. It surrounds me.
If the eyes are truly windows to the soul then I have been blessed to know an exceedingly large number of gentle and loving souls in this lifetime. I am thankful and grateful. It started with my dear mom who I am positive spent many nights watching her little ones in our cribs. How wonderful to grow up surrounded by this much love. Pass it on...